"Don't judge me by my looks, judge me by my
competence," we all insist. Unfortunately, we DO judge a
book by its cover, and even more so today in this
fast-paced world. If you have a state-of-the-art
appearance, it will be assumed that you have credentials
to match. However, if a single element of your image is
dated or if you look "average," it will be assumed that
your products or services are dated or ordinary.
Here are ten tips that will enable you to have a
dynamic image, so that you can outclass the competition
and get on the fast track to success.
1.
Get an up-to-date hairdo.
A dated hairdo can
undermine an otherwise great look. It is the number one
"image destroyer" of most American women. The most
polished and professional hairdos are European looks
that are straighter, like Katie Couric's new hairdo.
Forget bangs that curl under; if you do have bangs you
want stylized straight ones like Laura Bush. If you have
curly hair, get a precision cut so it doesn't look
sloppy. Forget Barbie-doll flips and shags - both appear
unkempt. Pageboys look passé, but can be updated with
"pointy layering" (a la Couric) so that your hair hugs
the face and frames it softly.
2. Wear
solid colors.
Solid colors look more
professional than patterns and they're more versatile.
Large patterns also add pounds. Small patterns, however,
do not slim; and they are less powerful and versatile.
Save them for blouses.
3. Wear
authoritative colors at "power events."
The
darker the color, the higher the authority. Black, navy
blue and dark charcoal grey are classic business colors
because they convey authority. Black is a very complex
color and can impart many messages, some negative. Navy
blue, on the other hand, is not complex. It suggests
authority and "trust," an attribute of blue. That is why
it is the "uniform" of business executives as well as
policemen.
4. Learn how to wear black
successfully.
Black is the darkest color
that exists, and thus, the most powerful. That is why it
can look severe or intimidating in the hands of
amateurs. Black is an excellent color choice for women
whose voices and stature are noticeably "weaker" than
their male counterparts. Black levels the playing
ground. To wear black successfully, you must avoid
looking severe, threatening or stand-offish. Lipstick
accomplishes this. Here's why: the face is the focal
point, and when black is worn without lipstick, the
garment takes over. "Colorful" lips subtly catch the
eye's attention, giving a pleasant subconscious
reaction, while technically insuring that the face
remains the focal point. Just as one candle "defeats"
darkness, black is defeated by the introduction of
color. Pink-family colors (orchid, fuchsia, cherry red)
are the most effect for softening black. If black still
looks stark, add bold earrings or pin. (See No. 9
below).
20 Somethings: If you have worn pale
lipstick or gloss most of your life, black is likely to
"wear you." To wear black successfully, switch from
brown-toned lipstick to a soft orchid tone (Lancôme's
Champagne; Cover Girl's Midnight Mauve). It usually
takes an entire week to get used to seeing yourself with
lipstick. It takes only a day to start getting
compliments.
50 Somethings: Black can easily be
ageing with "red" lipstick. Unless you have dark hair
and olive skin or darker, avoid burgundy, bright red and
orange lipstick. The best colors for you are fuchsia,
magenta or cherry red.
5. Avoid pastels
and grunge colors.
Unfortunately, pastels
convey passivity, timidity, sweetness and fragility;
traits that are not conducive to leadership and
authority. Pastels also cause fair-skinned women to
disappear into their clothing and look invisible. Grunge
colors make most people look dreary. They also easily
suggest "country weekend" instead of "office."
6. Wear bold colors.
Bold
colors (including black, navy, red, magenta, cobalt and
royal blue) give a confident, dynamic look.
Some
vivid colors are classy and some are flashy; learn to
make the distinction. In general, "brash" colors such as
orange and lime are flashy; while magenta and racing
green are classy. Here's the rule: Jewel tones are
classy; food colors are brassy. You want to stand out
and be remembered, but not for the wrong thing.
50 Somethings: Women in authority must avoid
"shrieking" colors and a high-pitched (shrieking) voice
when upset. Years of teaching assertiveness training has
yielded evidence that men tune out women's voices when
they become high-pitched and excited; plus they
immediately relegate them to a negative category. Lower
the voice, speak slowly and limit "brash" colors so that
you are not perceived negatively.
7.
Avoid blazer jackets.
Choose jackets with a
distinctive look to appear worldlier. Blazer jackets
look too much like a copy of "daddy's jacket," so they
appear unimaginative. The only exception is when they
are in a bold color or have high-fashion tailoring, so
that they look more distinctive. Here's the rule: choose
jackets in a style that no man would ever wear!
20 Somethings: avoid wearing your suit with
lace-trimmed lingerie-style tops; they too suggestive
for the office and will decrease your credibility.
8. Wear
Accessories.
Accessories make you look more
professional and experienced. Bold earrings add power,
but make sure they hug the face so they don't get
noticed more than you. Earrings must never jangle. Bold
pins soften severe colors and add power. Belts give
pants and skirts a finished look.
20 Somethings:
avoid jangly earrings and giant hoops; they shout
"teenager." 40 Somethings (and older): avoid scarves,
because they suggest "ladies lunch" and "bridge game"
instead of board room.
50 Somethings: avoid
scarves (see above) and pearls. Single-strand pearls
easily suggest primness and reserve. Avoid round or oval
clip earrings, as they easily look severe or matronly.
9. Keep shoes
simple.
Something is wrong if others feel
compelled to look at your feet. Plain pumps are best.
Wide feet look slimmer in a low-cut shoe; narrow feet
are better in a high vamp. Never, ever wear pant shoes
with a high tongue with skirts. They make the feet look
large and clumsy, and it will suggest that you are
clumsy. Avoid high contrast between feet and clothes
(light shoes, dark suit, for example), as it will draw
attention to the feet.
20 Somethings: Avoid
shoes that suggest "teenager," such as flip-flops (even
fancy ones), and sandal-style shoes. Strappy 3-inch
heels may be very "in" in Hollywood and NYC, but you
will look more professional and businesslike in "big
city" plain pumps.
10. Avoid long
skirts.
Mid-calf skirts look matronly,
except with boots. Long skirts form a hard straight line
and give a restricted, weighted down appearance.
The way you look shouldn't matter, but it does.
It is possible to dress "deliberately" so that you
influence the reaction that others have to you. To dress
randomly is tantamount to playing Russian roulette with
your career.
Sandy Dumont is Executive Director of the
Impression Strategies Institute and is a pioneer in the
field of image psychology and impression management. She
has worked with Fortune 500 companies in Europe and the
US for more than 25 years. She is the author of four
e-books and two DVDs on the subject of image and writes
five monthly columns on the subject. Get a free e-book,
TATTLETALE LOOKS, on her website: http://www.theimagearchitect.com/